Gay or just a gentleman?
Posted Oct 30 at 12:59 PM
There's a chick at work who's been dating a guy for 2 months. He's a bit of a hottie and we, (other nosy female staffers) have been wondering, what he's like in the sack, as you do. We thought she was doing the " I don't shag and brag" thing, so we held our tongues and let our imaginations do the rest......hrmmmm.......Sorry my mind was wandering.
Anyway, yesterday, over a few lunch time vino's, she tearfully told us that they were yet to do the deed. Her self esteem was taking a huge battering as a result.
Now according to her, they get along well, have the same interests, sense of humor, they never run out of conversation.
They kiss, they fool around, get hot and heavy and then....Nothing. It doesn't go any further. She's hinted that she's more than ready for the next step, she's gone down the seduction path and practically dragged him to the bedroom, but at crunch time, he always makes some excuse and puts a halt to proceedings.
Physically he appears to desire her (she's caught him ogling her when he thought she wasn't looking, he tells her how hot she is, he does get a boner when they kiss etc) So what's the friggin problem???
My advice was to straight out, ask him what the go is. She refuses to because, and I quote, "I don't want to seem like I'm gagging for it". And she wants things to progress "naturally".
So this morning I asked a few of my male friends and they could find only two possibilities. 1) He's obviously gay. 2) he has a pin dick or other penile dysfunctions that embarrass him.
From what my friend can ascertain though, he is NOT a pin dick. That leaves the gay option. Would a gay man even enjoy kissing and fondling a woman? So I ask my resident expert on all things homo ( by the way he's going to be on a major float at the Mardi Gras this year (t one in SD). Go Adam whoo hoooo) And he assured me that unless the guy was soooo far in the closet, he's frolicking in the snow of Narnia, that he wouldn't enjoy tangling with female bits.
So what's the story? Could it merely be that he's one of these rare breed of men, who actually like to wait until they're sure of the relationship before having sex? Maybe he's waiting for "the one"?? Everyone's sexpectations are different. I know some people who f*** in lieu of shaking hands, and that's fine if that's your thing. It just seems odd that a guy wouldn't take up the offer of sex on a platter. I know these guys DO exist, ( I'm well read ya know) but personally I've never met one.
Whatever the reason, she's starting to question the "relationship". She's extremely horny now that she's not getting it, and not feeling very desirable right now.
So is he gay, or is he a gentleman?
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Ali - that was my advice too, but she doesn't want to seem like a nypho if he wants to wait till the "right" time.
Bobby - a virgin? yowza. She can break him in ;)
Mgkdrgn - shy? hmm.. he seems a pretty confident guy.
Mystro - yeah maybe.. but he seems like a confident guy to me.. Maybe he's too embarrassed to bring it up. or something.